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But I Don’t Want to

After undergrad, we have to either work or go to grad school.

There is no third option in our society of expectations.

Our world today requires great responsibility from the get-go.

However, most of us don’t have the luxury of getting job offers upon graduating. In fact, we would be lucky if we got a job offer within a few months. That is if we even have a clear, cut idea of what we want as a career path. I mean, seriously, how many of us know for sure? I know it seems like everyone else around us has an idea of a career path but how many of those actually work out?

I have changed my possible career path FIVE times since I graduated a year and three months ago. It’s very stressful, but staying on a path I’m not happy about is even more stressful. I haven’t given hope that this one will be the one. But I also haven’t let myself be married to this new career path either, especially given my track record.

I have realized that I don’t have a specific desire. I don’t have a career that I am completely sold on. I feel like I’m missing something that others have, something that seems to be needed for a job: passion. Does that mean something is wrong with me?

No. That’s what I have determined. Nothing is wrong with me. It’s not that I don’t have a passion; honestly, I have too many probably. But nothing I think of combines all of those passions. So until I find something, it’s still an adventure. The only thing I’m certain of is what my dad told me a long time ago: Make sure you find a job that you WANT to wake up for and go to every day.

That has always been my goal. And it always will be. No, I haven’t found that job yet. Yes, it’s scary. Don’t let your balloon of hope pop. I’ll let the waves carry me. Or let the loans and debt carry me. Either way, something strong enough needs to be carrying me until I find that dream job!


I just want to stay a kid, have some fun, and stay forever young. And hold a red balloon in a crowd of people.

[my photo, taken in Berlin 2014]

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OMG, Add Me on LinkedIn?!

Now that we are…how shall I say…older, we are evolving in our social media standards.

First, our generation was judging incisively on MySpace. Then, luckily, Facebook entered our lives and saved some – only some – of our humanity. Instagram crept into our lives, igniting our competitiveness for the ‘coolest’ filtered photo. Snapchat made us realize how annoying people were with their incessant need to send snaps of their food. Thanks for helping my diet, jerks.

Now, LinkedIn is the new and coolest thing for us twentysomething, young adults. It is definitely the one social media account we should be using (seriously). This is a great way to stay in touch with professional connections and find new ones. You can also look for job postings and search companies on this site, which is great for you poor (literally) unfortunate souls.

Blog1But there are a few thoughts that will cross your mind as you begin this phase in your life. A lot of self-judgment will occur, and in retrospect, you’re going to have some regrets of how little you actually did with your life up until now. Sorry, but best of luck!

  1. Cool, I get to make a new profile

Oh wait…I have no real experience or past work. I look like a lazy brat now.


  1. Oo, I can upload a profile picture

Which shall I use: the totally not-sober one from senior year shenanigans or the ratchet one of me dying from heat
stroke at a football game? Let’s face it, no one has real headshots already done…that requires money.

  1. The skills section should be easy

Wait, what kind of skills are these? Excel, Leadership, and Management? What happened to eating, sleeping, and
being frugal? (You will begin to question even the most basic skills you think you have…like spelling)


  1. Profile is complete

This is the most boring profile of myself. I look like an eighteen-year-old, who has to repeat senior year.

  1. Finding connections

Oh I know her! Woah…she’s done that much with her life so far? Liar. Fraud. Still, she makes me look bad, so I will
not be requesting her.


  1. Someone looked at my profile!

Wait a minute, you can see who looks at your profile? I’m suddenly regretting my stalking. Why didn’t someone tell me


  1. What the heck are second connections?

Too much brain power is needed for this ‘social media’ site. My brain has the hurts.

  1. Can this be like a dating site, too?

Finally found a nice professional-ish photo; not one of those ‘professional’ shots that include the perfected deer-in-
the-headlights look, old-lady hair style, and shoulder-padded suit. Time to scout out the cutest connections!


If you do not have a LinkedIn profile yet, take these points as warnings. Go out and do some stuff with your time and fill up that resume! If you already do have a LinkedIn profile, you understand what a mental struggle this point in life really is.



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10 Things to Question about Your Life after Undergrad

Questionable phases of life after gradation. We all go through them and we all survive them….well most of us do. Here are 10 things to question:

1. Receiving a job offer

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Because of all the talk about the difficulty of getting a job, if you do receive an offer, it becomes very suspicious. Wait, I only applied to 20 jobs and actually got one? Whereas, you hear horror stories of people applying to 40 jobs and getting one interview and no job. It is a paid position, right? Not an internship? Always be on high alert when something happens too easily in the working-world. Unless you got hired at McDonald’s, then just nod and accept it.

2.  Old friends

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Some of your old friends act like they have too much of their shiznit together. Those are the ones you need to watch out for. No one has that much of their life pieced together yet. And with the politics starting to erupt already for 2016, some of your friends’ true colors are coming out over Facebook…question their reasoning. Block.

3.  Your relationship status

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If you feel like Christ Traeger, you are probably questioning yourself, too. Leaving undergrad means leaving all of your friends, and who knows when you will all be together in one spot again?

4. All the work you did in undergrad

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All that stuff you had to memorize for exams was beyond pointless. It was actually wasteful. Wasted the space in your brain, wasted your time, wasted thousands of note cards. Question why you tried so hard do to do well in those useless courses. And then be ready to get mad.

5. Your ability to keep it all together

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If you can fake it enough to act like you have it all together, you deserve an award. If you think you have your life all put together nicely, you need to question yourself. Don’t lie to us, you rub your face into a pillow every night before bed like our trusty, relate-able buddy, Nick Miller.

6. Your career choice

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Think you know what you want to do after you graduate? Guess again. Chances are you will question yourself with every job application or every grad school assignment. If all else fails, become a wizard; it’s as close as you will be to a real job after you graduate anyway.

7.  Your ability to stay professional at all times

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Think you will act like a mature adult now that you have a diploma? Chances are you will become very sarcastic very quickly. Professionalism is boring anyway, so question those who act like it all the time. Plus, you’re still a child in the eyes of many.

8. Your so-called undergrad accomplishments

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Think being secretary in an undergrad club will get you far in the job market? Think that one intramural team you were on will help? It won’t. And the lack of actual “accomplishments” on your resume will only make you feel worse. I hate that part of a resume anyway. Can watching Netflix be on there?

9. Your interview capabilities

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Maybe give yourself a practice round or two before that job interview. And if you don’t, question why you aren’t. No one is actually prepared for an interview. That’s the joke of the year. It’s also something they didn’t teach you in undergrad, so question your college/university on that one.

10.  Your ability to flirt

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If you think you’re still in ‘the game’, you’re probably wrong. Question why it hasn’t worked out for you so far.


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New YOU Resolution – 2015

WOO 2015, BABY!

It’s another year that has come and gone. Moment of silence for 2014…

As twenty-something year olds we do not tend to think of New Year’s Resolutions as much of a thing for us. Maybe go to the gym more often, don’t waste our money on so much alcohol, try to buy at least one fruit or vegetable at the grocery store each week, and a few other small ideas that never continue past February. There are a few things we twenty-or-so-year-olds should consider, though, to make our life the best it can be in this very moment.


  1. Stop Worrying

Especially if it is to the point of anxiety. Yes, it is stressful at this point in life: getting ready to graduate from undergrad, did just graduate, trying to find your way through this real world. Whatever stage you are at, things are pretty stressful. Money, relationships, school, work, family, friends, money again (It’s always that thin, green little piece of paper that hits the hardest. I thought trees were supposed to be nice and peaceful?) But if you worry about every single thing for every single moment, then your future is going to be pretty miserable. Face the facts now: you will always have these stresses in life. Just think about how many adults and retirees have these concerns, and all of them have made it pretty far in their life just fine. If you don’t have one or two of them, you will have the others for sure. If you focus so much on these right now, you are not leaving yourself much space in your brain to focus on the present. Always planning for the future never leaves room to live in the now.


  1. Start focusing on the little things

A lot of people say, don’t worry about the little things in life, go big or go home! Well, that is not always the best thought process. If you focus so much on the grand scheme of things you will miss out on a lot of random opportunities and little moments in life that are worth a million times more than that final goal. So you have a set career path for yourself, good for you, but don’t let that dictate your every, waking moment. If you focus on the daily things and the small steps to take to get to the final goal, you will enjoy and appreciate your journey so much more. Focus on the friends you can make because you never know how they will help impact and help you in the future. Focus on the little jobs you have to take to pay rent/tuition/bills because you never know if you will climb the ladder in that business or organization or if those people will help your future career in some way (you always need good references no matter where you apply to work, so may as well as be a good employee so your boss can basically help you get out of that job).


  1. Complete projects

Don’t just half-ass things anymore. You are a grown up, have some respect for where you are in life! Don’t set a goal and have a timeline only to give up halfway through. Even if it is the smallest project ever, like loading the dishwasher or reading a book or doing a diet or learning a new hobby. Do not give up on yourself. Even if you end up hating whatever you did, at least say you completed it. Motivation seems easy when it’s the beginning of a new idea or activity, but it can quickly disappear if a speed-bump gets in the way too early. Losing motivation is twenty times easier than having it, so don’t let it slip away too quickly because it will take so much more effort to start up again. If anything, make it routine until you have reached your goal or the end of you timeline. Routine is good for us humans. If it’s routine, we consider it a natural part of our life, and it gets done with more ease. So, whatever it is that you want to do in this New Year, just complete it. You will be so proud of yourself and realize that can do so much more than you ever thought. (And let’s face it, we love to prove other people wrong. So if anything, complete the project to say “I told you so” to someone else. That’s what keeps me going, honestly.)


  1. Do one new and random thing

Is there a place you have always wanted to go? A hobby you always wanted to try? A person you always wish you could know better? There is always one thing in every individual’s life they wished they tried, trust me. So find yours (or find multiple!) and get out there and do it. No excuses. If it requires money, well then make a reasonable timeline and work until you save enough to go to that new place. Complete the project and do something new (boom, steps 3 and 4 done. You make me so proud already!) I always said I loved photography so I went out and started my own photography business. I wanted to write for people my age, so I went out and started this blog. I wanted to run a race, so I went out and completed my first 5k not too long ago. I made things routine, and I set reasonable expectations for myself. I didn’t say I’d do everything in one month; it has taken me months and even years to complete all these things. I never gave up and kept it routine and reasonable enough so I knew I could accomplish it. Another thing to remember is: it doesn’t matter how small or unpopular this new and random thing is; if it is important and exciting to you, then do it. I don’t judge at all when it comes to people accomplishing their dreams and eliminating regrets! I have faith in you and I don’t even know you.


  1. Smile more

I know too many people who go around life and don’t enjoy it. I also am lucky enough to know people who laugh and smile at everything; those people are truly living. First of all, smiling is biologically good for us. It releases endorphins…(all you Legally Blonde fans finish that line for me). Smiling can literally change your mood in seconds. Next time you are really mad or sad, force yourself to smile through clenched teeth and all. I have done it and promise you it will help in some way. It won’t be some dramatic 360 degree change in your mood, but you will either laugh at how funny you look smiling angrily or you will realize whatever is bothering you isn’t the end of the world. And giving someone a smile can be the best gift. Smiling to complete strangers cannot only make you feel better, but also you never know when that stranger just needed a simple smile from you. A smile can go a long way in life (except if you are breaking up with someone; for your safety, probably keep yourself from smiling until later, okay?)

Second, laugh more! I recently read an article (which I am sorry to admit I don’t have handy to cite for you, but the link was on Pinterest somewhere) that mentioned how laughing can actually help your metabolism. Have you heard “laughing so hard I got a six-pack”? Well you could have laughed so hard and so much that your metabolism mutated and sucked up all your fat. I guess that could be a thing now! Anyway, laughing is good for you, too, and can in no way negatively impact you or your health. So let loose! Find whatever makes you laugh and stick with it. Don’t be afraid to joke with people or to laugh at a joke you hear.


  1. Care more

Find something or someone you care about and really show it. If it’s an organization or a talent or a person who really has a hold on your heart, then get out there and do something about it. Show that person you care by randomly calling or writing to. An old-fashioned handwritten letter can go a long ways this day in age. If it’s an organization you care about, get involved and don’t be embarrassed by it. If it exists, it means other people are like you! Showing a genuine care for something or someone can satisfy us so much. It can really makes us think we are doing something right with our life.


  1. Don’t compare yourself

Okay this one is the hardest, but one everyone should really consider and attempt to do! There are so many “expectations” for us as graduates, young adults, newly employed, unemployed, single young adults, engaged young adults, married young adults, etc. Whatever the title you want to give yourself (or someone so kindly gave you), don’t compare yourself to others. We are all individuals, we all have our own story to write, we have our own experiences to live with, and we all have our own path. No one in the world is identical to you (not even twins): you have different thought processes, different goals, different experiences, different ideas, and different futures. If you get stuck comparing your life to others then you are mentally blocking yourself from greatness. Sometimes it’s hard to not compare yourself; for example, if a lot of friends you know are getting engaged and married but you still haven’t had a relationship that lasted longer than a couple months (or days), then you will drive yourself mad comparing yourself to them. And it literally will not change a thing! That’s what is so ironic, you can compare and compete against others in your life, but in the long run things just happen when it’s time. You will meet the person when the time comes; you can’t speed up life and meet them earlier. Just like you can’t pull out of hat what life you will be given (that’s why we all need to be Divergent. Choose your own path, all you Tris-folks out there). Your career choice will come together like a nice puzzle piece based off of your past experiences and the people you meet along the way.

           So I know seven things is not that much compared to these other lists of long New Years resolutions, but at least these are simple and virtually cost no money. You can always set more specific resolutions (i.e. go to the gym, lose some weight, save a specific amount of money, do well in school, get a promotion, actually find a job, not waste money on alcohol (hah) and etc.) but using these 7 things can help you reach those goals. I promise you that life will seem better and you will appreciate it more. Be happy and proud of where you are at right now, but most of all do not give up now. If you give up, you will only curse yourself later. Don’t be that person at the family gathering in 40 years who is always grumpy, hates life, gets mad at everything and everyone, and scares the littlest family members. Be the happy aunt, uncle, parent, sibling, grandparent who everyone loves to see! Do it for yourself, and me (make me proud followers and readers!)

XOX Happy New Year, hello 2015!

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Hello blogger world!

This is my second blog, but my original one is focused on traveling/adventures across the Big Pond. However, I realized there are more things I want to talk about. Life lessons and observations. Things I’ve learned from watching other people. Things others should be aware of and know. Taking a few seconds every day to just observe and educate yourself can really pay off when it’s time to hit the “grown up” world. And there are a few things the “grown ups” need to be more aware of, too, in my opinion.

So the purpose of this blog is to bring up things I’ve noticed (whether it be in everyday life, the news, other blogs, observations over time, etc.) that I think are worth mentioning. In the end, it will just be my opinions, but hopefully some of you can related to some of the things I say. One thing I will push, though: keep an open mind in life because it will get you more friends and more respect.


Until next time,



“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman




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