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Be Single this Summer


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People think a summer fling would be the perfect story. However, staying single for the summer is better for you than having any significant other. Instead of spending half of the summer finding someone who is good enough and only being able to spend 6 weeks with them before going back to school/home/work, you should stay single and enjoy the good life. Here are 5 reasons why you should try to stay single during the fine months of May-August.

And remember to stay sassy throughout it all!

1. Freedom 


This is not meant in a sarcastic or discouraging way. I mean freedom to decide for yourself what YOU want to do, when YOU want to do it. Relationships are compromises and giving things up at times for your significant other. And I’m not saying this is not great for people, but what I am saying is that this is the time for you to be selfish. Like the great Koyoko quote states. Be selfish and learn to love yourself.

  1. Making new friends


Now, you can meet new people at some social gathering. And you’re ALLOWED to do it! You are single, so no one is restricting you from interacting with the opposite sex. You can mingle, flirt, have fun and meet new people. It is a great thing, really. You do not have to feel guilty by any means. Plus, the summer has way more social events and the atmosphere is so free. It is a great time to be single.

  1. Traveling


Travel to visit friends without having to accommodate anyone else. Now is the time to travel without any strings attached. Go for days or weeks or a month. You do not have anyone calling you back! Cross things off of YOUR bucket list. You will not need to travel to a random city in the middle of nowhere to meet more family member of your SO’s. Travel to the coast of your interest!

  1. Work on bettering YOU


Summer time is the personal-renovation months. There is plenty of time to re-adjust your eating habits, start exercising and taking care of yourself, start a new hobby, finish a project, or whatever it is you need to do to find out who you are. You need time to focus on yourself and learn what you really love.


  1. Showing yourself you can be independent


Many times people go from relationship to relationship, but the summer is a great time to step back and force yourself to be on your own. You learn who you are and what you are capable of. Living on your own and living with just yourself is a great lesson in life. Take the time to be selfish and do whatever you feel like!

And just walk by couples and give this face to them: it’s so refreshing!


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Judging a Book by its Cover

Don’t judge a book by its cover. Or maybe just judge a little.


Isn’t this what we have always been told? Don’t judge anyone too quickly, it’s rude. Shame on you.

Yet at the same time, we are told “dress to impress” because first impressions are the most important. Wouldn’t that be because someone is judging us off our appearance?

Oh the contradictions. Thank you everyone for teaching us one thing, only to enforce the complete opposite.

Let’s face it, everyone judges you off first impressions. It’s what helps us land a job, make a new friend, meet a future spouse, be generally accepted by ‘society.’

So what do we do? Do we be ourselves or be the person who will be accepted by the general public? No wonder our youth of today are in a constant battle about appearance because this is when we first start to realize that appearance matters. Peers start to judge and gossip about each other in school. They make fun of those who are different than them. Then in college we say “I don’t care what people think; I’ll wear sweatpants everyday if I want!” Then we graduate and realize we need buy business casual attire because it actually does matter how we look; no more piercings everywhere, no huge tattoos, no crazy hair, no crazy ensembles.

                                                                     — Which is where I need to throw in a little PSA. No crazy ensembles means shopping time, which means more spending of money, money that recent graduates do not have. Okay, I am done venting.– 

It is a constant battle between wanting to be liked and wanting to be independent. What should we teach as more important? There is no easy answer for this one. Always be true to yourself, even if that means wearing different clothes or having a different attitude as long as you are working toward a goal you have set for yourself. Most will find that your true goals are easy to attain without changing much about yourself because it matches your personality anyway. Do things in the name of you. Do it for yourself. Things always have a way of working out.

In regards of judging others…

Some people say judging others is a sin. But sometimes it just pops in our head. The key is to not let that initial judgment be the lasting one. Maybe your initial judgment of someone is correct but give yourself time to be wrong; I usually am.



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