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Love 

Love: an intense feeling of deep affection; a person or things that one loves.

Valentine’s Day  is normally associated with couples, lovers, relationships. But, if we are going to look at this day at face value, it is not meant for just those people in relationships.
Love has no boundaries, is not meant for specific people or relationships, is not meant to be restricted by people.

We need to recognize love in our life that does not come from a significant other. We need to recognize love from other people, from other things, and from moments in life. Love is not bound to a boyfriend or girlfriend, or to a person for that matter.

 

Love comes from our family

Love comes from our friends


Love comes from our pets

Love comes from studying what we like in school

Love comes from pursuing our dreams 

Love comes from ourselves appreciating our worth 

Love comes from those laughs shared with people who know us

Love comes from the apology from someone close

Love comes from the sunrise

Love comes from your past, your present and your future

 

So Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone. I hope you feel the love today!

 

xOx

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Things to Stop Asking Twentysomethings

We get it. We should have more of our crap together at this point in our life. The constant questioning is not going to help us figure things out, though. So get out of the interrogation room and let us be….free. We know what you really mean when you ask us things; you’re not as sly as you think, sir.

Here’s what you ask us….and here’s what we hear….

1. So…any wedding bells ringing soon?

What we hear: Are you seriously still single? You’re going to die alone, you know that right?

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2. Any exciting job offers?

What we hear: You’re going to be unemployed forever so better go pick out your box to live in.

3. How’s grad school?

What we hear: Have you failed out yet? You know that Cs don’t get degrees in grad school, right?

4. Are you living out on your own yet?

What we hear: How long will you mooch off your parents? Poor mom and dad would like to retire.

5. Time to start thinking long-term. Finances are a pain, am I right?

What we hear: You’re already behind on everything regarding stability in your life.

6. Remember the good old days of undergrad?!

What we hear: You are older than the dust under my fridge and now have no life.

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7. What do you miss the most from college?

What we hear: You’re no longer in college….wait, what?

8. How’s the real life treating you so far?

What we hear: Have you failed yet? Because you are going to sooner or later…

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10 Stages of a Commuter’s Life

Unless you drive a substantial amount of time per day to work or class, you don’t understand true pain. So many feels occur during your drive. You live a lifetime during that trip. You laugh a little, you cry, you become hopeful, you get angry, you die a little, and a few other feels jump in there on you, too.

Be ready for some truth right here. It’s about to hit real hard.

HOPEFUL: The start of the drive always looks promising

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SMALL FLINCH: Then you hit your first red light

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NERVOUS: You start singing to distract yourself

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ANXIETY: Rush hour traffic hits real hard and cars are everywhere

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ANGER: You suddenly stop moving whatsoever

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FUMING: You realize you do this everyday and hate yourself for it

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SADNESS: You just want this drive to be over

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NOTHINGNESS: You are so over everything that you now have zero emotions

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PROUD: You have enlightening moments where you

solve all the problems of the world and, most importantly, your life

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TIRED: You have a parking spot and only realize your day has just begun

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Told you it would be a rough ride.

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Dating in Postgrad

Ah, the dating scene is quite the place to be. A bunch of single, beautiful people casually milling around, laughing lightly and chatting about smart adult-like topics with a chilled drink in their hand.

Too bad I’m not at this scene.

Too bad this scene doesn’t exist.

Too bad this scene is just like the scene in “19 Kids and Counting” where Josh Duggar spills the beans on live TV and gets punched in the face…it will never happen.

The dating life after undergrad is pretty much close to non-existent. So word to the wise, find your mate before you graduate.

Here’s a couple things you’ll find to be true about the postgrad dating life:

1. Mathematically speaking, you’re screwed.

There are just fewer options out here in the real world. Marriage is happening at an early point in life, generationally.

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2. You don’t go places to meet potentials.

Where are you possible going to run into a potential date? The McDonald’s drive-thru? Or maybe the pizza delivery person? Just face it, you don’t go many places where singles are just hanging out. It’s a rough pill to swallow.

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3. You don’t go anywhere PERIOD.

Either you work a 40+hr a week job or you go to grad school. Either way, you don’t have a life anymore. You come home from work and crash on the couch, barely making to the kitchen to scrounge up some Easy Mac. Or you come home late from classes and being at the library all day and don’t even make it to the couch.

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4. You judge a lot quicker now.

No job? Not in school? Can’t even go and get a haircut? No thanks. I need someone who has more of their crap together than I do, if this is going to work.

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5. You’re poor.

I have no money to go out to places to meet someone. I have no money for a wedding! I have no money for a house! How can I possible date anyone with this bank account? I have to think long-term, here.

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Until next time, xOx

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Things We Should All do in our Twenties

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Before you worry about not finding “The One” or settling down or acting like a ‘real adult’, there are a few things you should really do for yourself.

 

  1. Travel

Plan a trip or go spur of the moment! Visit a friend, take a friend, or make new friends on an adventure. Although this is a time in life that you may not have a lot of money, it is the best time to travel. No kids to drag along with you and no work schedule for you and your significant other to work around. Plus, that is what the Internet is for! So many blogs and travel sites have ideas for cheap ways to travel. You need to travel to appreciate things and culture, to appreciate what you have, and to live out your dreams.

  1. Live on Your Own

Whether you have roommates or moved back home after undergrad, you need to leave all of that behind and live on your own for at least the length of one lease. Experience time on your own, so you can prove to yourself and others that you can survive on your own if needed. Teach yourself to not be afraid of the dark! Or just keep every single light on. That’s okay, too.

  1. Find a Career Interest

This is the time of internships, volunteering, temporary jobs, and part-time work. It is time to test different career interests out. Internships are the best (paid ones are a gold mine) because you can test a career option out for a specific amount of time: if you hate it, the day it’s over just toss your ID badge to the wind and find another internship, but if you love it, grab those contacts and work on a way to a full-time position!

  1. Be Happy In Your Own Skin

Be comfortable with who you are. Don’t worry about what you wear, what your make-up looks like, what brand your accessories are. It is not as much a fashion war out here like it was in high school or even undergrad. Don’t worry about judgments and just feel comfortable being 100% YOU. Go out and buy that superhero shirt you always wanted to rock, or that Minion tank that’s irresistible, or that crazy outfit you used to think would make you unpopular.

  1. Maintain Solid Friendships

Up until now in your life, you probably have a few friendships that have outlasted any significant other you have dated. Don’t let those relationships dwindle because you’re too busy trying to “find a man” or a girl. Many people lose friends while they are trying to get the attention of a possible partner. Our twenties is the time to find people to laugh, cry, cheer, and explore with. These friendships keep us grounded throughout our lives, through thick and thin. It is important to have friends in life. Even when you eventually settle down, you will still need friends.

  1. Be Grounded in Your Faith (whatever it may be)

It does not matter what you believe in (God, gods, Jesus, no Jesus, Mother Nature, Fate, etc.). As long as you have grounded morals and have something to keep you accountable to, you will be set in life. Give thanks, forgive, be patient, be optimistic, and help others. You need faith to keep you going in the hard times, so you need to start grounding yourself now before the real tough stuff comes.

xOx

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14 Reasons Why You Need a Ross Geller in Your Life

14 Reasons Why You Need a Ross Geller in Your Life

Now that you have matured, and by that I mean been kicked out of the undergrad world and shoved into the work-field or graduate school world, you need certain people in your life. Joey was the heartthrob but not a commitment-type man; Chandler was the goof that made everything nice and awkward, and you don’t need extra help doing that; Monica made it okay to let your inner OCD show but let’s not get carried away now; Rachel helped you feel smarter yet profoundly uglier; and Phoebe was just Phoebe. But Ross, he is winner all around. You need a Ross Geller in your life, whether you know it or not. So I’m letting you know now. He’s got everything you need to make life more bearable and just plain entertaining. He was the kid that never grew up, the academically smartest one in the bunch, the one with the biggest heart, and the awkwardly untalented one.

Here’s a few reasons why you NEED Ross…

  1. He shops at stores you frequent.

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He can’t understand how someone would not like the Pottery Barn. I mean come on, who doesn’t like to shop there? How else will you and Ross decorate your future home together? Now that you have graduated and been thrown into the “real world,” you are going to need to start window shopping at “grown up” stores (not adult stores, no XXX). Ross would be there to help carry your new shelving units and shoes racks. And he’s not afraid to show his feministic side. Those frames so do not match the décor going on here.

 2. He’s not afraid to show his bromance for the hotties.

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Every girl who watched the show or was actually in the show, fell in love with Joey. He’s the ultimate bachelor, so why would Ross be afraid his feelings for him? It takes a real man to not be afraid to cuddle with another man! And look how content he is laying in Joey’s arms. Imagine yourself added to that pile up 😉 You know you will need such a relaxing environment after studying for hours in grad school or working full-time in the adult world.

  1. Ross is a fantastic mover.

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I mean, seriously, who wouldn’t want a guy that can coordinate moving so precisely? His directions are spot on and given all that moving you will be doing into a new apartment or at least out of your old one, you will need someone with his types of skills. New weekends: you could be pivoting with Ross!

  1. Ross can teach you helpful flirting tips.

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Now with a full-time career or full-load of graduate studies, you are losing your flirting skills. Don’t get too distraught, Ross can teach you the best moves for winning someone over. Look at that awkwardness, who couldn’t fall in love with you after two lines? You know you fell in love with Ross over this one; he even popped his leg like in Princess Diaries. That’s true love.

  1. Need to be more alert? Never fear, Ross is near with the latest skills to keep you on your toes.

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Forget ninjas, Ross is in the house! He will always pick the right place for dinner, always be able to protect you at night, always know the answers to his own questions, and never forget anything because of his keen sense of unagi. You cannot simply develop this skill easily, but Ross has mastered it. Thus, he’s the perfect boyfriend.

  1. Can’t sleep? Ross will always be there to play a sweet melody for you.

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He even creates his own music, unique and never-before-heard. What girl doesn’t desire a musician? He would dedicate a masterpiece just to you. How could you not listen to his sensual melodies? He puts real passion into his work. You will fall head-over-heels for him. Actually, probably quite literally will fall over because of the ratchet sounds coming from that poor, moaning keyboard that wishes itself it was dead.

  1. Your grammar skills have finally bloomed after 4 years of undergrad, and Ross truly understands your pet peeves.

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Who has watched Friends and hasn’t remembered this one simple grammar rule? Seeing these two words written and used incorrectly is worse than nails on a chalk board for you college folk. It’s a simple rule, yet people painstakingly get it incorrect over and over; Ross feels your pain. Really, he is pained in this scene as he impatiently screeches the difference. That’s why he’s the perfect boyfriend: “Oh baby, you had me at the proper use of ‘your’.”

  1. As look for dateable men, you realize you need to start looking for a family man.

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He is a perfect dad. What else could you ask for in a husband and father of your children than a man dressed up in a completely mismatched ensemble such as this? I mean, look at his face. He is so happy to be wearing that impossibly coordinated outfit and you can’t help but smile. Ladies, wondering what a good father will look like? No need to look further than this picture. Just don’t ask where he got all that stuff.

  1. On the note of being a great father, exhibit B.

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Need a goodnight lullaby? Out of bedtime stories? Wondering what good rhyme there is to help your child sleep? Ross has got your back. He will literally put whatever words pop in his mind into a soothing bedtime lullaby. Plus, it will always rhyme. Never question his parenting. Your kid will grow up to be a champ.

 10. He is so smart, he is dumb.

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We all need one of those people in our lives. The types that are so smart that they are actually dumb. He knows every bone in every dinosaur but can’t read the label on a condom box. Everyone who watched this show will always remember the statistic that condoms only work “like 97% of the time.” And it’s on the box.

 11. He’s a threatening kind of guy who will tell off anyone who upsets him.

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It will be a delayed response, but he will take care of those who mess with him. He is super cereal here, guys. You better hope you’re not still around after he passes. Need a man who will stick up for you? Want a guy who will take care of business? You could probably do better than this, then. But hey, you want to scare the shiznit out of people by knowing the right ghost? Keep Ross around for the afterlife so he can really take some people down!

 12. He’s an open book.

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No secrets here. He is as honest as a priest. He has no shame and doesn’t know what to keep to himself. But that’s a reason why you need him in your life. He wouldn’t go long before telling you everything. If you can hold out for, oh say 10 minutes, you will know the life of Ross. Nothing wrong in that, but TMI sometimes buddy. Knowing your failures such as these is not quite something you want to spill to the ladies. (But again, look at that face, priceless puppy face.)

 13. He’s not a pompous, macho-man.

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Worried about those kinds of guys that just excrete mass amounts of testosterone with every breath? Well no fears, Ross is not that man…by any means. He is very sensitive and quite possibly scared of heights. Scared for your future now that you have graduated? Ross is just as scared for you. Worried that your future career plans are crumbling? Ross is screaming right there with you. Panicking a little? Ross is panicking a lot for you.

And lastly,

14. He is that sweetheart you always dreamed would look at you in the kindest of ways.

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Ross has the most heart out of anyone on Friends and repeatedly proves it. Ever want a man to stare at you with that dreamy, starry gaze? Ross is most definitely your man. You know you need someone like him in your life for those tough days where the worst seems to have happened all at once. His care and love for his friends never failed throughout the entire show.

You need a Ross in your life and here are just a small number of reasons why. He’s a perfect mix of everything and lacks the right things, too. Dream on ladies and pray a Friends reunion shows up some day!!

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Phases of Post-College Life

There are many phases of life after graduation. You’re completely normal for going through all of these. Don’t be afraid… just be a tad concerned.

1. The Hopeful Phase — “I have a chance! I’ll get my dream job and be able to travel finally!”

This first phase has tricked us all. Got me, too. It’s hard not to be positive when every university/college encourages you to chase your dreams. You know what I have to say? Thanks. For. Nothing.

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2. The Graduation Day Phase — “Wait, it’s over already? No, no, no, no, no I don’t think I’m ready for this.”

Now the idea of not having a clear future hits close to home. As you sit there with your beautifully stiff cap and gown on, you think about how you are about to be released into the world. How many of us were actually ready for that one? (Those going back to school don’t count. You don’t need to worry about your job…yet…you’ll be next, though, darlings.) You start to panic and beg to be let back into the university to maybe get a second or third degree. Please?

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3.  The Beginning of this “Career Search” Phase — “I’m going to look for my dream job. I have a college degree so I’ll be ahead of most people out there.”

Graduation-Day-Depression is over, and you are determined to stay positive and find your career job. People all seem to have jobs around you, so how hard can it be? The naive determination keeps you going. Hold onto this last childish-hope that you have. This phase will probably either last a few days before the next phase starts up or it will never end for you. Stay strong, my friends!

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4. The REAL Job Hunt Begins Phase — “I’m just going to add every little useless detail of my accomplishments to my resume. That should definitely get me the job. What’s a little embellishment?”

You start getting a little desperate now. Don’t worry, it’s natural. A little embellishment isn’t a lie exactly and is not always illegal. It will only get you in trouble when your future employer is smarter than you…and chances are they will always be. But that never stops people! Keep chasing that laser.

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5.  The Realization Sinks In Phase — “Yeah, I’m screwed.”

Realization that there may be no hope for you. Beware, this is a pretty low phase. Some may even become zombie-like, and if you come across people like this stay far far away.

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6. The Cynical Phase — “Why did I even go to college? Why did I spend thousands on tuition for no hope of a future?”

People start being very cynical around you…or maybe you’re making everything seem cynical because of your state of mood. I mean how useless can you get? A crisp, white piece of card-stock engraved with gold writing with your name in the largest font…maybe it could be a giant name tag to mark my territory? I told you Phase 5 was real rough; it even bleeds into this phase. The only difference: people start reminding you how screwed you are.

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7. The Bottom-of-the-Barrel Phase — “I think I’ve officially hit rock-bottom.”

This is when you succumb to all those feelings of inadequacy and apply to any and every business you pass on the street. It’s nothing to be ashamed of; everyone has had a job like this. If anything, it just means that you’ll never give up and keep pushing through the tough times! Also, just beg employers to make up jobs so you can be employed: “I’ll be the window-washer for your three small windows.”

Although this classic joke never gets old…unless it’s you, then it’s very very old.

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8. The Completely Hating This Adult Life Thing Phase — “I’m worth more than this!”

SO you finally get a job and you make close to nothing. So half the battle has been conquered, I’ve gotten a job (whether your career one or a temporary one), and I’m still poor. Working doesn’t just equate to money, instead it equates to time spent getting just enough to pay taxes and eat Ramen noodles. Mmm I can just taste that sodium now.

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9.  The Poor Person Phase (everlasting?) — “So what do I want to do this Friday night? Let me hunt for change under the couch first.”

It’s definitely time to reevaluate the financial situation. This phase may last forever, but just remember you’ll make it through. Shoot, if you’ve made it to Phase 9, then you’re golden! Look how much you went through already. Be strong and proud of that accomplishment. I like to think things are just getting more expensive.

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10. The Can-Things-Get-Any-Worse Phase — “Now everything is a just joke to me. Haha…ha…h…”

This is when you start to analyze and compare every aspect of your life. Stay sarcastic, my friends. It’s all we may have left by this phase.

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And remember, you have an army of new graduates being funneled through this Phase System ahead of you and behind you. Just think how many more phases there will be for those graduating after you! Consider yourself lucky in that sense. And consider yourself lucky to have gotten an education because some people weren’t able to be like you. Stay strong and good luck!

P.S. – I’m at Phase 4 FYI.

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So you’ve graduated.

Congrats. After a party that lasted four years straight (and that thing people call “school”), the commencement ceremony is supposed to be the grand finale. As much as that may be a little true, the day after consists of a serious hangover…and not the type from alcohol-induced graduation celebrations.

It’s the day after where you realize you are no longer a student at that college and you are now expected to have your life figured out. No more using the gym for free, no more walking on campus saying “yeah I go here!” and no more getting away with procrastinating. Even if you were a good student (like me, since I am a perfectionist), everything goes downhill after graduation day. Like you haven’t heard that question “So what are you doing next year?!” enough, but now it is “So what are you going to do now?” Notice that exclamation mark was dropped? That’s not by accident. People ask the question now with a dry tone expecting a legitimate answer. Have you got a legitimate answer?

I don’t.

Although people say it’s okay that you don’t know, it’s not. See in college, especially senior year, you could get away with procrastinating and making up answers to questions about the future. However, the time has come to really piece together parts of your life. My opinion? Charts. Pros and cons of getting a job or continuing your education. Would you benefit from furthering your education? Does your field require it? Would you be able to make it through more years of studying? Can you find a decent job that will help your future?

Both options involve major financial considerations. Some people had this in undergrad: taking out loans, working one or more jobs, paying all of your own bills. But even these people are in for a tough time. People expect more out of you now. No one is sympathetic to you anymore compared to when you were a ‘struggling student trying to get a good education.’ Now it’s more of a welcome to the adult life of many people in this world, you’re one of us now. This doesn’t come with a welcome party, though. So don’t bring your party shakers and champagne. (Also, you can’t waste money on those things now! You’re an adult!) It is a tough but serious consideration, so don’t make the decision lightly. But don’t let it get you bogged down either. This really is a new chapter in life that you should be excited and happy about. You made it through college, which means you are good at faking it enough to make it through the whole “career” thing.

So in summation, good luck. Although don’t take all the luck because I need some, too, you know. And you thought this would be easy, you silly graduates.

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