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Expectation vs. RL: Dating in Postgrad

Everyone knows the postgrad life is not exactly what we imagined….or what we had mentally and emotionally prepared ourselves for; so, this segment of Expectation vs. Real Life will focus on the dating scene and what to actually expect. It is not at all like the Disney suggested. Although, those princesses were basically pre-teens, so I guess we should have already accepted that we missed our prince charming.

Friday Nights

Expected: Going out every week and flirting the night away with your large group of friends

Reality: Getting home from work and barely being able to make it to the couch to turn on Netflix

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Dating Apps

Expectation: Mutually swiping right for a select few compatible mates

Reality: Aggressively swiping right for everyone because you are desperate and no one swipes back

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Flirting

Expectation: Professional, confident, likable, and cute

Reality: Completely oblivious to everything because it’s been so long and you are totally behind the times

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Compatibility

Expectation: Opposites attract, like-forces attract, you can make anything work

Reality: Anything and everything that is just a little bit different between you two is a GIANT pet-peeve

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Meeting “The One”

Expectation: Some adorable, romantic, once-in-a-lifetime moment

Reality: Making a pact as children to be stuck marrying each other if you weren’t married by 30

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First Dates

Expectation: Romantic, unique adventure that ends with staring up at the stars

Reality: Typical chain restaurant that ends with you two walking separately back to your car

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Date Conversations

Expectation: Cute and sexy 20-questions

Reality: Complaining about loans, lack of money, a horrible job, and life as a twentysomething

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Social Media

Expectation: Candid photos showing how in love you both are, whilst showing off how much fun you are having in life

Reality: Continuous and unappealing selfies that make you two look more like a mess than anything else

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Have anymore expectation vs. real life dating scenarios? Comment below!

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Single and…..

Loving it? Ready to mingle? Depressed?

Whichever one of these ends that sentence for you, make sure it’s not the sadder version. Being in your twenties, many of my friends are getting engaged or even (*gasp*) have already gotten married. And here I am, lonely ‘ole me… and you. You remember that movie 27 Dresses? Well, I’m already at 2 and 1/2 (bridesmaid twice and invited to a third wedding). Although if I had 27 friends who would want me to be their bridesmaid, I’d be so proud that I may not ever worry about having my own wedding. You have to pay them all back and have 27 bridesmaids. What a pain that would be.

But seriously, I know you’re comparing yourself to all your friends who have a rock on their finger. I have sure have, but it’s not the road you want to go down. See I’ve thought about this long and hard. Here are my reasons:

1. You’re free to what you want when you want (you don’t need to fight with anyone on your plan for the weekend)

2. You can always eat what you want to eat for dinner (no compromises on TV dinners when you want Mexican food and he/she wants Chinese food)

3. You’ve been non-married/non-engaged for twenty-ish years, don’t panic because you have like 60 more years to be with a significant other. Stop being dramatic.

4.You have time to work on other relationships/friendships

5. Traveling with friends is just as fun as traveling with your significant other. So get out there and do something fun!

If you’ve just gotten out of a long relationship: “Don’t look back, you’re not going that direction anyway.”  I know it’s tough but you’re part of a great club of singles now, filled with potential and opportunities! You’re allowed to cry for a few days but don’t go crazy because that’s just a waste of life.

Don’t worry about your friends who are pairing up and leaving you as the awkward third wheel. They will be with the same person forever (or a long time) whereas you can explore and be experimental in dating. You can learn from your friends’ relationship mistakes so your future relationship will go smoothly. Be observant. Learn what you want in your significant other.

Also, if you push for a relationship, you will end up forcing something that is not meant to be. I know of people who are using certain apps and other ways of trying to meet people, but it’s in a desperate way. Please don’t do this or else you may end up regretting it. I’m a firm believer in things happening when they are supposed to happen. Do NOT lower your standards. This is one mistake that could be life-changing (and not in the good way). Stay strong and stubborn!

I do want my significant other for long romantic walks on the beach and picnics in the park, blah blah blah. But I know it’s not the time, so I’m waiting for the great guy to come along.

P.S. — Hey Prince Charming, get GPS and find your way to me a little quicker please.

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