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My 3 Cents

Yes, my three cents because it’s worth way more than just two cents. This #thedress debate is quite fascinating. I first saw the photo on Twitter and immediately thought it was absurd for all the confrontation. It was clearly black and blue. Maybe I could understand how the black looks brownish or gold, but it was still black. Then I showed my mother, without giving her my thoughts. She busted out with such confidence, “White and gold!”

You said what now? I’m pretty sure my eyes widened so much it looked like I just got dilated at the optometrist. Then we went back and forth, only getting more set in our own answers, for about 5 minutes. “It’s definitely blue and black; you’re crazy!” “No, it’s definitely white and gold! You’re the crazy one!” We are very persistent folks.

It really is hard to see it as the other person. I couldn’t fathom how the color could be white. I saw blue, and only blue. Yet my mom couldn’t understand how I saw the black in the dress. I tried to squint and change my viewpoint, tried to force my mind to see it the other way, but I came up empty every time.

My mom and I quickly Googled how this could happen. Multiple videos explained the differences in technical, scientific, smart-people terms. “Color Constancy” and how our eyes and brains have evolved to take in light. Basically our brains play tricks on our eyes. And those tricks are different for each of us. It has to do with shadows and shading. It has to do with natural light versus artificial light. It has to do with how we perceive light. It has to do with our mental processing. No matter how it happens, though, it is still mind-blowing. How can our brains be so perceptive without us even knowing? It only goes to show how much our minds are capable of. It’s hard to accept that someone else can be right, too. But in this case, my mom and I were both right. We have moved on from being stubborn about our color choices, to being fascinated by the science and our own minds. I kind of want another photo like this to come out so I can compare how my mom and I see that, too! Although, I don’t know if Twitter can handle the fights it saw last week on this simple dress again.

P.S. -I know this all happened a few days ago. But I like to wait for the fad to get over with, then I pipe up to reignite the fight again.

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Single and…..

Loving it? Ready to mingle? Depressed?

Whichever one of these ends that sentence for you, make sure it’s not the sadder version. Being in your twenties, many of my friends are getting engaged or even (*gasp*) have already gotten married. And here I am, lonely ‘ole me… and you. You remember that movie 27 Dresses? Well, I’m already at 2 and 1/2 (bridesmaid twice and invited to a third wedding). Although if I had 27 friends who would want me to be their bridesmaid, I’d be so proud that I may not ever worry about having my own wedding. You have to pay them all back and have 27 bridesmaids. What a pain that would be.

But seriously, I know you’re comparing yourself to all your friends who have a rock on their finger. I have sure have, but it’s not the road you want to go down. See I’ve thought about this long and hard. Here are my reasons:

1. You’re free to what you want when you want (you don’t need to fight with anyone on your plan for the weekend)

2. You can always eat what you want to eat for dinner (no compromises on TV dinners when you want Mexican food and he/she wants Chinese food)

3. You’ve been non-married/non-engaged for twenty-ish years, don’t panic because you have like 60 more years to be with a significant other. Stop being dramatic.

4.You have time to work on other relationships/friendships

5. Traveling with friends is just as fun as traveling with your significant other. So get out there and do something fun!

If you’ve just gotten out of a long relationship: “Don’t look back, you’re not going that direction anyway.”  I know it’s tough but you’re part of a great club of singles now, filled with potential and opportunities! You’re allowed to cry for a few days but don’t go crazy because that’s just a waste of life.

Don’t worry about your friends who are pairing up and leaving you as the awkward third wheel. They will be with the same person forever (or a long time) whereas you can explore and be experimental in dating. You can learn from your friends’ relationship mistakes so your future relationship will go smoothly. Be observant. Learn what you want in your significant other.

Also, if you push for a relationship, you will end up forcing something that is not meant to be. I know of people who are using certain apps and other ways of trying to meet people, but it’s in a desperate way. Please don’t do this or else you may end up regretting it. I’m a firm believer in things happening when they are supposed to happen. Do NOT lower your standards. This is one mistake that could be life-changing (and not in the good way). Stay strong and stubborn!

I do want my significant other for long romantic walks on the beach and picnics in the park, blah blah blah. But I know it’s not the time, so I’m waiting for the great guy to come along.

P.S. — Hey Prince Charming, get GPS and find your way to me a little quicker please.

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